“To be mature you have to realize what you value most. It is extraordinary to discover that comparatively few people reach this level of maturity. They seem never to have paused to consider what has value for them. They spend great effort and sometimes make great sacrifices for values that, fundamentally, meet no real needs of their own. Perhaps they have imbibed the values of their particular profession or job, of their community or their neighbors, of their parents or family. Not to arrive at a clear understanding of one’s own values is a tragic waste. You have missed the whole point of what life is for.”
– Eleanor Roosevelt, You Learn by Living
Just read this via Gretchen Rubin's blog, and it struck a chord.
Do you know what your own values are?
Have a look here to read more about values and think about what your own might be. It has a list (you need to scroll down) of possible 'values'. One useful exercise is to pick your top 10 from the list, and then narrow down to your top 5.
For me, this is one of those questions to ask oneself over and over again: what really matters to ME?
There is a lot that needs doing in the world. Sometimes it seems depressing, or overwhelming. We can't do everything, be everything all at once, but we can figure out what matters most to us and make a plan to bring those things into our lives.
AKA The Writing Parent