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What advice would you give to your younger self?

When my first baby came, I received a card with some advice from a new friend who had an older baby:

 

"Whatever you feel, at this point, is NORMAL."

 

She had been through the turbulence of early parenthood and would have loved to have known that herself at the time.

Other tips passed on from friends included:

 

"Have a shower, put on some makeup, and get out of the house." - great advice under any circumstances, methinks!

 

"Get organized. Do online shopping. It will make your life easier."

 

And this one I particularly like:

"Don't stress about the housework. Leave the vacuum cleaner near the door so if guests come round you can say, I was just about to hoover! With any luck, they might offer to do it for you."

 

 :-)

 

The best advice is attributable in many diverse circumstances - do you agree? Are there moments in your past you wish you could go back to and whisper reassurance or encouragement in the ear of your younger self?

Do you think you would have listened?

 

In BrenĂ© Brown's Rising Strong, a book I am currently reading, she quotes a priest friend of hers who says,

 

" I used to tell couples getting married that the only thing I could tell them with certainty was that they would hurt each other."

(Joe Reynolds, quoted in Rising Strong)

 

Unusual and profound marriage guidance!

On my own relationship front, I would go back to my 23-year-old self at the knotty start of my relationship with my now husband and tell her,

 

" Relax. You'll be together."

 

 

What were the best tips you received - as a new parent, or generally?

And what would you whisper to your younger self?

 

Love Elizabeth,

aka The Writing Parent

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Mia

Everything changes, nothing stays the same, my mum always said to me when I had Julian and I thought I would go mad when he didn't sleep, didn't eat and so on. To my younger self I would whisper: don't take yourself or your life so serious!

The Writing Parent

That's such a great one - in parenting and in almost every other situation in life! I had a similar one I used to tell myself when I was up all night with my daughter's reflux: 'What if you knew you only had another 5 minutes of this?'. That used to help me - sometimes ;-). It is so hard to believe you are going to get through each phase when you are at the bottom of it. But, miraculously, one day it is all past!
I guess we all take ourselves too seriously, don't we? Especially when we are young. As you get older you realise that everyone else is so busy thinking about themselves that they're not noticing what you are doing, or if they are it is only to make themselves feel better/ worse! There was a great video that went round on facebook a while ago with people talking about their lives/ what they'd learned, and the very old guy in his 90s at the end said something like, no one really knows what they're doing. No one does! I find that very reassuring sometimes, when I'm wondering why I don't know either! ;-) xx

Thomas

Perhaps I'd have turned to Oscar Wilde and said "'We're all lying in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.' - don't ever stop!".

Elizabeth

Thanks for visiting and commenting! :-)
We don't always appreciate our own youthful wisdom - or others' - until later.
I love this quote! Thank you. To see the stars, and point them out to others... maybe that's happiness? ;-)

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